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A life beyond your wildest dreams

July 31, 2014

A year ago, almost to the date, I was devastated because my boyfriend was moving to another state and I had no idea what our future held. I just knew that it was something he had to do and that no matter what path our relationship took, that God would navigate us through it.

Since then, there have been a couple moves, a couple new jobs, a minimal amount of fights (considering) and about a thousand miracles.

On Saturday, my boyfriend became my fiance. It was a fairytale. A fairy tale of lies, but a fairy tale. That was dramatic but as the “event”, oh it was an event, unraveled I realized that my friends and family were fantastic liars. They had all been keeping this secret from me for 6 weeks. I vented to most of them about him taking his time with asking me. I told them, I doubt he has even asked my dad or bought the ring yet. They just smiled at me and told me how great of a guy he was and to not worry.

My aunt told me that we were going to a the Philharmonic with girls from my family saturday. She kept reminding how nice the place was and to make sure I looked my best. Luckily, I listened, even got a manicure that day. Any woman out there understands how clutch that ended up being.

I pulled up to my aunt’s house, she has a gated front yard. I walked through the gate and there were two guys with cameras standing in the front yard avoiding eye contact with me. I started drilling them, “Who are you? What are you doing here? Does my aunt know you are here?” Then I realized that I knew one of them, “Dave?! Dave?! what are you doing here?” He told me there was a message waiting for me on the bench.

And it begins. From this moment on for about 24 hours I was in shock. My friends and family said they have never seen me so quiet in my life. My now fiance, said that I looked like I was in another world. He totally surprised me.

He made a video of him asking my dad permission to marry me, buying the ring and showing the ring to my mom at her grave site. He’s perfect right? It had photos of us and our family to some meaningful songs. After, my dad opened the door with flowers and was basically jumping up and down saying, “Come on cait! Here we go!”. I just looked at him and said, is he sick? Where is he?. You see, my beautiful boyfriend had told me he came down with a horrible flu on thursday. Me, being the loving and trusting girlfriend that I am, believed him. My dad, still jumping, just laughed and said, “You really don’t get what is happening do you?”

We drove up to the home I grew up in. The home that has me and my sister’s hand prints in the drive way. There, my family and his were waiting, grinning ear to ear. It started with my dad and I dancing to, “Isn’t She Lovely”. Then his wife and her mom came and walked flowers down to me, then his mom and dad came and greeted me with flowers and kisses to, “I Got You Babe”. My sister, nieces, his sisters came down to, “All The Single Ladies”. His brother, our brother in-laws and his nephew came down to, “I Want It That Way”. From then on it was a one man show. He lip synced and danced, with props, to several different songs. Little Mermaid, “Part Of This World”, with a red wig. “Come Sail Away” with a blow up guitar. Aladdin’s “Whole New World” with an Egyptian king hat. “All By Myself” while holding a picture of himself. “The Way You Make Me Feel” with a Micheal Jackson hat and moves to match.

I, of course, said yes. He then threw an engagement party with the people he knew meant a lot to me. It was catered with a burger bar and mini pies. Mini pies! It was a dream.

There were a minimal more meaningful details involved in that day that I won’t add because if I do, we would be here all day.  He knew how much I would want my mom there and that being at that house is as close as I can get to her.  He knew how much I would want my dad, his wife, my aunt, sister, brother in-law and nieces there and he made it happen. It was meant a lot to have his family there, cheering him on and welcoming me into their family. They have loved me like a daughter/sister for years but now it is official and having them there meant a lot to both of us.

Oh. And the ring. THE RING. He had it made. The exact ring that I was in love with. I told you, fairy tale.

The thing is, God gave him to me. God gave me this caring, crazy, man for me to love. God gave me this sober life with its ups and downs and its amazing ability to love and care for other people. He gave me 12 steps to heal my life and recover the relationships I hurt so that they could all be there that day. 5 years ago I knew I had a problem but I was afraid to stop drinking because I wanted to have a champagne toast at my wedding. I was single. Not a date in sight, miserable but holding on to this idea of a champagne toast in the future of never because I had absolutely nothing to offer anyone, living in the world of delusion that I couldn’t stop drinking for that.

Today, I couldn’t imagine trading all of this for that. I am so grateful that I will not be drinking at my wedding. We all know it would not be a classy toast and that’s it. It would be a miracle that I would make it to the toast. I always dreamt of a man who would dance in the streets for me but I thought it was too good to be true, that guys like that only exist in movies. I dreamt of having my family together and having a moment the way it was when my mom was here. I dreamt of having friends and family that love me so much they would go out of their way to plan an event for me. I have a life way beyond that, way beyond my wildest dreams.

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5 Comments
  1. Kathy permalink

    I am so happy for you, you deserved all of it I am glad you can see the blessing in your life. I cant to see you in person to hear the story from the beginning with all the details xxx kat

  2. Amane permalink

    You almost made me cry in public!!!! That was so beautiful. I can’t wait to see the video

  3. Lavinia permalink

    What a wonderful, romantic, plan. I’m so happy for you both! I love you!!!

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